A Letter To The Singles: What You Need To Understand While You Are Still Single
We are not new to some of these relationship tips and advice because we hear about it every time, see it daily and some are already planning to move to the next stage which is marriage. One thing is how prepared are you before the final conclusion that makes you think, “I am ready for marriage!”
Today we will be discussing some of the things you need to understand about marriage while you are still single.
What Can You Compare Marriage With?
I remember the time I was given jungle boots and a pair of tennis shoes at the NYSC Orientation Camp. The jungle boots was so tight that I had to exchange it with someone who have the size and managed the tennis shoes. I later experienced pains at my feet due to the tightness of the tennis shoes I had with me. Though I didn’t change it with the thought that fitted tennis shoes would be good for the morning drills not knowing that it would cause an injury to my toes. I put it aside and used the right one I bought. Why am I narrating this? This is to let you know that it’s not all that glitters are gold. There were some corps members that were given a fine jungle boots but were unable to use it throughout their service year. Why? This is because it’s not their size. They are not comfortable putting it on. Those who decided to use their owns gave it to those cobblers at camp to amend it for them.
From this illustration, I will start by saying, Marriage is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life. One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.
That is why I thought it necessary to write you this great letter that will help you.
When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:
- Physical Appearance : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life’s journey. It is important to know where you’re going in life before you think of getting a wife.
- Position: All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people’s sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your type and size cannot be everywhere. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can’t just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values
- Perception: In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Mentors and Relationship coaches).
And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (God Almighty).
“You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage.”
Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.
Wait!!! It is not just the wedding. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?
Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.
Ask Yourself These Questions
-Where is this shoe made from? (Background)
-What’s the size (Values).
-How much (His/Her interest).
-How long will it last (His/Her Character).
-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith i.e Compatibility).
-Will it match me? (whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are)
Dear friend, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!!
I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can’t know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember “you are not permitted to try it before you buy it”.
And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes 👟, you can still make it your size again if you’d consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.
God bless us all.
Now to you, What Can You Compare Marriage With?
Is there any other encouraging words you can give to help others in addition to this?
I will like to have your opinions and contribution.
Share this to all singles, you might be touching someone’s life with the right word.